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The Dos & Don'ts of Dating in 2018, Presented by Chappy

By Gary Duff | February 22, 2018 | Lifestyle

For some, dating can be a scary experience, but with the advent of new dating app technology, it's getting progressively easier to find your perfect match. So why not make dating a priority in 2018? With help from matchmaker Janis Spindel and dating app Chappy, we're hoping finding "the one" is a resolution you're sure to keep.


Start the Year Out By Writing Out Your Needs

Make a list of what you want, make sure you are realistic with your expectations of what you are looking for. Please make sure you are emotionally available. Timing in life is everything, it could be the right guy, but the wrong time or vice versa.

The Key to Finding the Right Man

Be available, if that means doing some soul searching or reading some great self help books, then do it. Professional help is always a bonus if you feel you need someone to talk to and express your feelings. If you ask me, the number one thing people are looking for in a partner is confidence. If you exude confidence on your first date it will go along way, I promise you. Clearly, men tend to be a bit more superficial, so make sure you are in the best shape and putting your best foot forward. Getting a few new date outfits is always a great idea to make you feel really good. Always a great idea to hit the gym before you go out. It will relax you, get your endorphins going, alleviate stress, and put you in a great mood. You'll be pumped up and feel great.

Where to Meet Your Match in Boston

I am a huge believer of meeting a man at the gym. Both the Equinox at the Ritz on Avery, which is a gorgeous club, and the Equinox in the financial district are both ideal. There are men everywhere! Soul cycle and Flywheel for spinning are also a great place to start. Find yoga places in your neighborhood or try a class at the gym first to see If you like it, then make it a routine. I find yoga studios far superior than yoga in a room at a gym for meeting men.

Upscale steak houses seem to gear towards all men, it's a meat and potato thing! If you want the typical all-gay bars or clubs then Jacques' Cabaret is full of fun, Club Café, Alley, and Rumor, would also be a good start.

The Dos and Don'ts of Your First Date

Confidence is the most important thing to have. And please don't talk about your ex, your divorce, or your past relationships! It's in the past, you are in the present and hope to maybe go into the future with this man. Politics are also a no-no on your first few dates, especially in our political climate. Make sure you're well dressed, and polite. It's always better to be over dressed than to be in jeans and a t-shirt. Be open minded at all times. You never know who you will connect with.

Never Judge a Book by its Cover

Chemistry is an intangible that no one can account for. Men fall in love through their eyes, so they must find the other person attractive. Having said that: you could be shocked and love his personality, brains, and confidence… but question whether he's your type. Moral is: You never know! He could have gorgeous eyes and a great smile but be bald, who knows!

Searching for "The One"

If you are still single and for whatever reason not meeting "the one,” change it up a little on you or what you are looking for. Be open minded with age, someone who has been married before then came out, maybe has a child or two. Be happy, confident, know what’s happening in the world, and make sure you are a nice person. No one wants a man whose mean or rude to the people around them.

To find your perfect match in 2018, download Chappy, a gay-dating app that can help you start your search for Mr. Right.

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